RAISING CHILDREN
A child is not a possession and so it is nonsense to say
that one has a right to have a child. One has a right not to be stopped from
having a child if one is a suitable parent and wants a child. Nobody has the
right to bring a child into the world when it will or probably will inherit a
terrible disease. It is wrong to say that children who have not been conceived
have a right to be made because that would be saying it is wrong not to have as
many children as possible and whoever does not exist yet has no rights yet. You
are not doing anybody any harm by not conceiving them.
Rights are inseparable from duties. If you have a duty to pay your staff then
they have the right to get money from you and the right to make you part with
it.
Couples must plan their families well and use contraception carefully though
Roman Catholicism says where a man pushes in it is a duty to have a child to
push out. They are saying the parents have a right and duty to have an unwanted
child when they have intercourse. Also God is thought to have a right to produce
a child through the parents which is why contraception is banned for Catholics.
The child is thought to be God’s possession. This has all the bad effects that
parents thinking they possess their children has. Treating the child as somebody
else’s possession is no better than doing it yourself. The concept of God
destroys the good we want to bring about by denying that children are
possessions that any person has a right to have.
If a woman wants to have a child without a man in her life that is her business
and she is not doing anything wrong. Children do need contact with men but not
necessarily fathers.
The family should avoid narrow-mindedness and ignorance at all costs for they
are threats to its cohesion. It should be bound by unconditional love and all
should feel that they can confide in one another.
Affection is the most important thing one can give one’s child and spoiling is
no substitute and should be avoided. When a child is disciplined it should be
made clear that it is done in love. Children who are allowed to get away with
too much will be set in their ways forever for the early years determine what
the will turn out like as adults. Looking the other way will be taken as
approval and so it is. But there is a difference between rational discipline and
being too harsh. Children should not be hit for that is just teaching them that
violence against the smaller person is okay and the hypocrisy of condemning
wife-beating and allowing the hitting of children will make them angry – perhaps
even scar them for life. There are alternatives. The Bible however wants them to
be well beaten (Proverbs 23:13-14) as do the more honest Christians (Correction
and Discipline of Children, John R Rice).
Praise your children to others and in their presence. You are not saying you
have made them good but that they are good so there is no shame in it.
Education is the best thing a child can have. The parents must take care of it
as well as the teachers.
Each family should be part of a bigger worldwide family united in peace.
Each Church seeks babies to be baptised into its creed and then when the baby is
older the indoctrination of the impressionable starts. This is child abuse. The
religion doesn’t care about what is best for the child but about brainwashing
the child. Children should be taught about right and wrong and how to help
others in a general way. There is no need for them to be brainwashed with
nonsense about priests having magic powers, and God being three persons and
books that God wrote through men. There is especially no need for them to be
exposed to vicious nonsense that sinners go to hell to burn forever and that
Christians should die rather than renounce their faith. And no need for them to
be taught superstitions like a God that won’t forgive sins until a sinner
confesses to a priest. Then one who is just barely repentant gets forgiveness
from a priest and somebody that is more repentant than them doesn’t get it just
because they can’t find a priest? Why should the children be baptised into one
faith and not another? Baptism is just a scam to turn them into narrow minded
people who think that their religion is right and the others are wrong just
because they were baptised into that religion. The Catholic Church urges the
Protestant to insult their conscience by agreeing in a mixed marriage with a
Catholic to bring all the children up as Catholics knowing full well that if you
have a faith and you think it's right you will feel a duty to share it with your
children.